In light of the mass shooting here in Maine, I received this message from a member of a church in Lewiston.

 

We are ministering to the flock as well as the Community.  Today I met with the brother of a victim of the shooting and the 4H Club was valuable.  I gave him a long hug.  He nearly broke down in my arms.  We raked his leaves today, which although a small task, was something overwhelming to him.  As we did, we listened.  We will continue to be interacting with the Community in the weeks to come.

 

This is not a ministry of bait and switch but because we care (Jude 22 KJV).

 

The holidays are especially difficult for people who are grieving.  We often wonder how we can help.  Here are seven suggestions.

 

1. Be Aware that the holidays are a difficult time for the griever.

2. Acknowledge their loved one, don’t be afraid to talk about them.

3. Be Attentive to really listen to them and assure them it is okay to cry.

4. Affirm them with hugs.

5. Assist them in any way you can; offer to help, shop, cook, mailing, etc.

6. Allow them to alter or create a new tradition and grant them the liberty to attend the holidays THEY choose to.

7. All people deal with grief differently.  There is no right or wrong feeling.  When one feels good, be thankful; when sorrow overwhelms, pour out your heart to God who is our refuge (Psalm 62:8).

 

In closing, let them know you care and are there for them.  When you are thinking of texting someone and you feel a nudge to call, CALL.  You will be amazed at the result.

 

In Christ,

Pastor Darwin Vail

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Isaiah 58:11  The Lord will guide you continually, and satisfy your soul in drought, and strengthen your bones; 

You shall be like a watered garden, and like a spring of water, whose waters do not fail.