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October 18, 2022

Help Through the Holidays


The holidays, especially the first ones after losing a loved one, are especially difficult for the people who are grieving.  Often friends and family of those affected by a loss are unsure how to act or what to say to support their grieving loved one.


So how can we help?


1.     Be Aware that the holidays are a difficult time for the griever.

2.     Acknowledge their loved one, don’t be afraid to talk about them.

3.     Be Attentive to really listen to them and assure them it is okay to cry.

4.     Affirm them with hugs.

5.     Assist them in any way you can offer to help, shop, cook, mailing, etc.

6.     Allow them to alter or create a new tradition and grant them the liberty to attend the holidays THEY choose to.

7.     All people deal with grief differently.  There is no right or wrong feeling.  When one feels good—be thankful,

        when sorrow overwhelms—pour out your heart to God who is our refuge.  Psalm 62:8I 


I have often said, "People don't care how much we know until they first know how much we care."


Recently a person told me how they received comfort and encouragement from the material they had been sent. They read the books over and over.  That person is now attending church regularly.  I am convinced the application of Compassion's Calling principles not only meet the needs of people but also builds the body of Christ over time. 


Prayer is appreciated as I begin to make plans to travel.  My desire is to encourage pastors, churches, small groups, and share Compassion’s Calling along the way.  Dates and times have not been set.  If you know of any possibilities for me to share, let me know.


Thank you for your prayers and keep up the good work.


Pastor Darwin Vail


Isaiah 58:11  The Lord will guide you continually, and satisfy your soul in drought, and strengthen your bones; 

You shall be like a watered garden, and like a spring of water, whose waters do not fail.

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